Love Dare

Where you go, I will go, and where you lodge, I will lodge. Your people shall be my people, and your God, my God. —Ruth 1:16

Write out a renewal of your vows and place them in your home. Perhaps, if appropriate, you could make arrangements to formally renew your wedding vows before a minister and with family present. Make it a living testament to the value of marriage in God’s eyes and the high honor of being one with your wife.


Love never fails. —1 Corinthians 13:8

Spend time in personal prayer, then write a letter of commitment and resolve to your wife. Include why you are committing to this marriage until death, and that you have purposed to love her no matter what. Leave it in a place that she will find it.

Delight yourself in the Lord; and He will give you the desires of your heart. —Psalm 37:4

Ask yourself what your mate would want if it was obtainable. Commit this to prayer, and start mapping out a plan for meeting some (if not all) of their desires, to whatever level you possibly can.

If two of you agree on earth about anything that they may ask, it shall be done for them by My Father. —Matthew 18:19

Ask your spouse if you can begin praying together. Talk about the best time to do this, whether it’s in the morning, your lunch hour, or before bedtime. Use this time to commit your concerns, disagreements, and needs before the Lord. Don’t forget to thank Him for His provision and blessing. Even if your spouse refuses to do this, resolve to spend this daily time in prayer yourself.

Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path. —Psalm 119:105

Commit to reading the Bible every day. Find a devotional book or other resource that will give you some guidance. If your spouse is open to it, see if they will commit to daily Bible reading with you. Begin submitting each area of your life to its guidance and start building on the rock.

Don’t set such high goals for yourself that you get discouraged if you miss a day or can’t read 12 chapters a day.   One technique I have tried and found successful is to pick a book of the Bible and read 2 – 5 chapters each day for a week.  Read it like any book, and let God work, over the course of several days, to make your knowledge grow.

Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed. —Proverbs 15:22 NIV

Find a marriage mentor—someone who is a strong Christian and who will be honest and loving with you. If you feel that counseling is needed, then take the first step to set up an appointment. During this process, ask God to direct your decisions and discernment.

[Love] does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth. —1 Corinthians 13:6

Find a specific, recent example when your spouse demonstrated Christian character in a noticeable way. Verbally commend them for this at some point today.

As you do this, watch out that pride does not enter in.  It is not about “You’re really good at X, just like me”, it’s more like, “You’re really good at X, and that makes you even more beautiful.”

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